The Resilient Blueprint Blog

Writing about healing after an abusive relationship. The small steps, the lessons learned, the science, and everything in between.

I started writing here because I couldn’t find what I needed to heal after I was safe. I didn’t understand why I felt the way I did, even though I was safe, and I couldn’t find what I needed to help me learn.

I needed content that took my experience seriously without treating me like I was fragile, while giving me actual information.  That is what this blog is.

Posts here cover neuroscience, explanations on why how you feel makes complete sense, the practical and often unglamorous work of building your life, creative and the body as tools for healing, and what it looks like to grow into someone new on the other side of an abusive relationship.

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When you’re safe and no longer in the thick of it, it can be disorientating. You’re not yet …

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At some point in healing, if you have approached journaling, you might find that a blank notepad isn’t …

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Setting Boundaries That Stick Publication Year: 2023 AuthorJuliane Taylor Shore Setting Boundaries That Stick is a science backed …

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The Life Designer Something shifts when your body starts to believe it's safe. The urgency fades, hypervigilance calms, …

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The Science of Stuck Publication Year: 2022 Author Britt Frank If you feel like you’re standing still, The …

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Are You Mad at Me Publication Year: 2025 Author: Meg Joesphson As a recovering people pleaser this book …

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Polyvagal Card Deck: 58 Practices for Calm and Change Cards The Polyvagal Card Deck is a pocket-sized guide to understanding …