Are You Mad at Me

As a recovering people pleaser this book really hit home. Are you made at me? Spoke directly at me.

This book helps you understand why you might constantly scan for signs of disapproval and why keeping the peace can feel more important that being truthful. It unpacks how people-pleasing, over-explaining, and emotional hypervigilance develop as protective strategies, ways your nervous system learned to stay safe, connected, and accepted. Instead of labelling yourself as “needy,” you begin to see the deeper roots of these patterns and how they’ve shaped your relationships.

As you move through the book, you’re guided toward the power of self-trust. You learn how to pause before assuming the worst, how to separate other people’s emotions from your responsibility, and how to tolerate the discomfort of not fixing everything.