Empowering survivors of violent, abusive, and narcissistic relationships to heal their way
At The Resilient Blueprint, we are dedicated to providing online resources for those healing from the trauma of an abusive relationship
My goal is to provide diverse resources for self-healing and growth, where survivors can find comfort, ideas, empowerment, and hope.
Resources for Healing and Building the You that You Choose to Be.
Hi, I’m Nadine Brown, the founder and writer behind The Resilient Blueprint.
Nadine Brown
Build your Blueprint for Healing Your Way
Healing is feeling safe and comfortable with who you are. It’s growing the life you want, the way you want, with love and trust in yourself. It’s about the identity you choose, not the one your abuser chose for you. It’s about creating boundaries to stop anyone from hijacking your life, choices, focus, and energy ever again.
Understanding what your body is going through helps you acknowledge the facts. It gives you a reason for how and why you feel like you do. But understanding trauma is not the reason you heal. You heal when you learn what safety, love, and rest feel like on repeat. That safety, love, and rest can come from you.
I am not a therapist.
I am not a life coach.
I am a survivor of an abusive and violent relationship.
I am a writer and a researcher.
After escaping my abusive partner, I was safe but a mess. I expected relief, but instead lived in a state of anxiety, convinced the taste of freedom I had would slip away at any moment. Being safe didn’t feel safe. I was stuck in survival mode.
I went to professional therapy. But I needed understanding, comfort and hope outside of the therapist’s office. I wanted to understand the science behind trauma’s impact on my body and brain and why I felt this way. I wanted to learn to love and care for myself. I wanted to feel safe being me.
I found amazing resources that supported leaving abuse, but struggled with guidance on healing once you were free and safe. That’s why I built The Resilient Blueprint.
The Resilient Blueprint is not intended as a replacement for professional help. It’s a space for information, thoughts, tools, resources and products that can support, interest, inspire, and assist you to understand the trauma caused by an abusive relationship, learn safety in your own body, and encouragement to build the life you want.
Insights, tips, and inspirations
- Got a question?
Frequently Asked Questions
I want to heal, but I don’t know where to start. What should I do?
Healing isn’t about big gestures or changing your life overnight. It’s small habits and micro-learning. Little changes that compound over time. You’re teaching your brain and body a different way to live. Everyone’s first steps will look different. It could include experimenting with journaling, learning more about why you feel the way you do, reading about self-awareness or mindfulness practices and practising self-compassion. You can also try our “Start Here” page for guidance.
I still feel stuck in the past. Is that normal?
Yes, completely. Healing has its ups and downs, and it’s not always comfortable. It’s common to feel stuck, overwhelmed, or even like you’re moving backwards. But setbacks are part of the process; this is how you become aware of so much more about yourself. There is no rush to the finish line or first prize for healing. Healing simply takes time.
Do I need to talk to a therapist, or can I heal on my own?
Healing is deeply personal, and there’s no right way to do it. Many find therapy to be helpful to them, especially when navigating severe trauma, anxiety, or depression. However, if therapy isn’t an option for you right now, there are many ways to support yourself.
This website isn’t a replacement for therapy, but it is here to provide support, encouragement, and accessible resources for you.
How can I stay consistent with my healing without feeling overwhelmed?
The key is to integrate small, simple practices into your daily life without pressure. You’re creating new habits for your well-being. Even a 1% effort for yourself a day will compound in time. This isn’t about placing pressure on yourself
Why do I feel guilty for prioritising myself?
If your needs were constantly dismissed, you have been conditioned to believe that taking care of yourself is “selfish.” That rest and self-care is to be earned and validated. In reality, self-care is necessary for everyone. It teaches you self-worth and self-compassion. It’s about giving yourself the kindness you have always given away to others. You can’t be there for others with your whole heart if your cup is empty.
How do I stop blaming myself for what happened?
Self-blame is common after abuse, but it was never your fault. Abusers’ manipulation distorts reality, making you feel responsible for their actions. You were making choices to ensure your survival and that was your priority. You did not cause their behaviour; you are not at fault, they are responsible for their own actions. You did the best you could with what you had and knew at the time.
I am in an abusive relationship, what do I do?
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